"An apology can be a wonderful thing so long as it is infrequent and from the heart. However, beware of the person who justifies bad behaviour with apologies. For them it is a means to an end, and quite often at your expense." - Gary Hopkins
What does, "I'm sorry!" really mean? Gary Hopkins made an excellent point, that is, to not justify bad behaviour with an apology. We all have our share of mistakes and some embarrassing ones at that. Making mistakes isn't a crime, we all make them. It's to not break the trust. Sorry mends mistakes, not trust. Sometimes the people whom we trust in with our eyes closed are the people who open our eyes. These people know you to the core and play you. That is not only a breach of trust, it is most painful. The anguish of a broken heart is real. The broken heart then makes a promise that, no matter what, it will always try to never repeat what it went through. It honestly tries and sometimes fails, but it never intends to hurt people. It can never do that. It can never scheme against people to get back at them. It gets upset, it will tell them, but never will it reach a point to ruin things for them, all of this because it knows what pain feels like and it'll never shy away from apologizing.
A lot of us don't realise the importance of being sorry. It's not just saying it. Move on. Repeat. It's meant to be sincere. When we say, "I'm Sorry", we need to be true to ourselves. We mustn't make a mockery of it and we certainly cannot take people for granted. We as a people have truly used, bruised and abused the word 'Sorry'. The word today, sounds so hollow and inadequate. You should apologize for when you may have truly hurt someone or said something rude or did something inappropriate. It's a matter of having a conscience. It would mean nothing if you don't stop doing what you were sorry for and it doesn't bother you. Sorry is not an excuse!
Some don't apologize because they're struggling, they're ashamed for what they did. They can't muster the courage to. Some don't apologize because they aren't aware of what they did. And some just don't because their ego comes in the way. In some cultures, it's expected of the young to apologize to their elders (even when it's not their fault.) because not doing it is a mark of disrespect. Convoluted much? I call it the 'Clash of Egos'! The ego ceases all good sense. It's twisted, really. There is no shame in accepting your fault. None at all. In fact, it's a release. You feel a weight off that poor heart of yours. Let that ego go and make amends. It's never too late to say you are sorry. or maybe you missed your chance... That regret is not going to be worth it. So, go ahead. Own up. and say, "I'm sorry."
"Never ruin an apology with an excuse." - Unknown
What does, "I'm sorry!" really mean? Gary Hopkins made an excellent point, that is, to not justify bad behaviour with an apology. We all have our share of mistakes and some embarrassing ones at that. Making mistakes isn't a crime, we all make them. It's to not break the trust. Sorry mends mistakes, not trust. Sometimes the people whom we trust in with our eyes closed are the people who open our eyes. These people know you to the core and play you. That is not only a breach of trust, it is most painful. The anguish of a broken heart is real. The broken heart then makes a promise that, no matter what, it will always try to never repeat what it went through. It honestly tries and sometimes fails, but it never intends to hurt people. It can never do that. It can never scheme against people to get back at them. It gets upset, it will tell them, but never will it reach a point to ruin things for them, all of this because it knows what pain feels like and it'll never shy away from apologizing.
A lot of us don't realise the importance of being sorry. It's not just saying it. Move on. Repeat. It's meant to be sincere. When we say, "I'm Sorry", we need to be true to ourselves. We mustn't make a mockery of it and we certainly cannot take people for granted. We as a people have truly used, bruised and abused the word 'Sorry'. The word today, sounds so hollow and inadequate. You should apologize for when you may have truly hurt someone or said something rude or did something inappropriate. It's a matter of having a conscience. It would mean nothing if you don't stop doing what you were sorry for and it doesn't bother you. Sorry is not an excuse!
Some don't apologize because they're struggling, they're ashamed for what they did. They can't muster the courage to. Some don't apologize because they aren't aware of what they did. And some just don't because their ego comes in the way. In some cultures, it's expected of the young to apologize to their elders (even when it's not their fault.) because not doing it is a mark of disrespect. Convoluted much? I call it the 'Clash of Egos'! The ego ceases all good sense. It's twisted, really. There is no shame in accepting your fault. None at all. In fact, it's a release. You feel a weight off that poor heart of yours. Let that ego go and make amends. It's never too late to say you are sorry. or maybe you missed your chance... That regret is not going to be worth it. So, go ahead. Own up. and say, "I'm sorry."
"Never ruin an apology with an excuse." - Unknown
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